Can I Kiss You? Published April 20, 2011 By Airman 1st Class Earlandez Young 92nd Air Refueling Wing Public Affairs FAIRCHILD AIR FORCE BASE, Wash. -- When approximately 500 Airmen walked into the base theater April 12 for a mandatory briefing on sexual activity, they weren't expecting a speaker like Mike Domitrz, founder and executive director of the date safe project. "When people are having fun, they're more likely to lower their barriers or guards and speak the truth without judgment, which is a main key when you're presenting a program to a group of people relating to a difficult subject such as sexual harassment," said Mr. Domitrz. "Once they let those guards down, we can explore why we do things, does it make sense and is there a better way to do this." Fairchild leadership with help from the base's sexual assault response coordinator was able to educate Airmen about sexual behavior and consenting to those activities. Mr. Domitrz said he has a three part purpose for his program, which is called "The Date Safe Project", and they are to teach to ask first before engaging in consent, second, for people to intervene when they see something going wrong practically with alcohol and sexual activity and third, how to support a survivor when you want them to come forward to you when they need to talk about anything and be able to move on in their life. Tech. Sgt. Sarah Grangroth, Medical Support Squadron played a big part in making this event available. She has been a victim advocate for almost three years, which was invented by the sexual assault prevention and response office who arranged Mr. Domitrz to speak here. As an interactive and entertaining expert on dating and intimacy, Mr. Domitrz teaches audience members how to ask for what they want sexually or intimately in his programs without having to play any of the games, as he calls it. Sergeant Grangroth says that was her first time seeing that particular program, and she loved it. "I absolutely loved it," she said. "It had a different twist on sexual activity as a whole. A lot of people want to shy away from it and not talk about it with their partners or even approach it in a dating scene. I think Mr. Domitrz is absolutely right. If you can't approach anyone in a mature manner, then you shouldn't be approaching them at all." Mr. Domitrz said he tries to reveal a fun and revolutionary approach to ensuring each person's boundaries are respected. "The show was very insightful," said Airman 1st Class Brian T. Ellis, 92nd Civil Engineer Squadron. "I can say it was one of the most interesting sexual harassment ceremonies I've ever attended. It gave me a new perspective on the way I should approach relationships." Mr. Domitrz says while he presents one of the "cleanest" shows, he holds nothing back to get his point across to "just ask". "The program was very helpful," said Airman 1st Class Andrea Kramer, 92nd Medical Support Squadron. "Even though I'm married and may not have needed it as much as single servicemembers, I have an 18 year old sister who is at that point in life where she may need me to help her with certain situations and with Mr. Domitrz's "May I Kiss You" book I can help her, and she can help herself." Mike Domitrz says he was amazed how the servicemembers here responded to the program, and we can expect more from him in the future regarding to his programs. "As of right now, the programs will remain the same," said Mr. Domitrz. "But, as sexual activity change in our society so will the program because I want to go over real life scenarios so people can actually relate to my program. That way I can help people with sexual activity with their spouse or with the fight against sexual harassment."